Sunday, December 30, 2007

Wedding Spam Coming Your Way

Hey Everybody! Some very exciting updates will be coming to our website within the next week or so we start to make more announcements to our wedding events. Our electronic "Save the Date"/RSVP forms will be online soon, as well as our emailing list for sending out email notifications.

For those of you who are tech savvy, subscribe to our news feed for automatic updates.

Other thing that we'll be sending email out for is receiving snail mail addresses for sending invitations... after much flip flopping, I think we have decided on an invitation.

With 8 months to go, I think our planning is coming together quite well. Too bad our payechecks don't come this quickly.

Saturday, December 29, 2007

As Long as We're Wedding Planning

... I'm not on vacation. Turns out that wedding planning is a lot of work. Denise and I have been off work for the past week for Christmas celebrations, hanging out with friends, and most importantly, wedding planning.

While there were no suprises on our planning meetings with decorators, I didn't really expect it to be so exhausting. I'm so glad that by next Wednesday, I'll be able to relax again (back at work, doing 'easy stuff').

The Quest for the Perfect Decorator

One of the major aspects that we still have to determine is a decorator for our wedding reception. At a minimum, we need a backdrop, head table decoration, and chair covers. So, before I left Ottawa for the Christmas holidays, I emailed a bunch of decorators with a preliminary inquiry. About half of them replied and I scheduled appointments with them during my stay here in Toronto.

For our first appointment, Colin and I went to the decorator's Mississauga "showroom". I put the word, showroom, in quotes because the place was more like a small workshop that was quite unorganized, untidy and dusty. The person we spoke to was nice. She showed us a photo album, which displayed a portfolio of the company's work. She also explained the extent of her experience with our reception venue. She provided us with a detailed quote that seemed reasonable.

Our second appointment was with a company based in Woodbridge. Although the guy we met was nice, we didn't have a very good vibe. The guy gave us a bunch of albums containing samples of the company's previous jobs. Rather than telling us more about the company, he left us alone for the most part while he did his banking on-line. And after discussing what our decorating needs were, he did his own calculations and gave us a number. This number was much higher than the previous quote. However, what bothered us the most was that when we left the meeting, we did not really have a good idea what kind of job this guy would do for us.

Our third appointment was with a Polish woman in Mississauga. As with the other places, she showed us albums of her previous work. Immediately, I could tell that she was a creative person and passionate about the work she did. What I liked about her was that she provided us with a detailed quote immediately and told us that she would reserve our date for two weeks. I thought that was nice of her.

With our last appointment, the decorator insisted on having the meeting at our reception site. She wanted to do a preliminary assessment of the ballrooom to see if she could meet our decorating needs. After looking at the ballroom, we found a quiet space where she presented us her portfolio and explained the depth of her experience. She demonstrated the most professionalism out of all the other decorators we talked to. As well, she provided me with the most thorough and detailed quote.

Colin and I are still mulling over our choices. The one good thing about meeting these decorators was we now have a better idea about what we want in terms of wedding decorations.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

The Gift Registry

Today, Colin and I completed our gift registry at the Bay and Home Outfitters. We had started it in November, which seemed a bit early to even think about it. However, we were persuaded by the various incentives being offered including a $25 gift card at each store and a free collander from the Gordan Ramsay collection just for putting the Gordon Ramsay cookware set on our registry. (We are still waiting for the free collander by the way).

When we went into the stores, we learned about other advantages to registering at the Bay and HomeOutfitters. For example, people can order off of our registry directly on-line and have the gift sent to our home store. Given that our home stores are in Ottawa, this would make it easier for us to transport our gifts home. Another advantage is the completion program. Basically, we have about a year to purchase outstanding items on our registry at discounted price. For example, we can buy the three plates that were not given to us as gifts to complete our dinnerware set.

Anyway, if you are thinking about getting us a wedding gift from our registry, you might want to check out the Bay and Home Outfitters now. Both stores are offering boxing day prices and having a white sale.

Saturday, December 8, 2007

Dress Saga Over (Well, Sort Of...)

It's finally over. I have chosen my wedding dress. I went back to the store with my mom and Colin's mom. (I wanted Colin's mom to check out the dress and examine the extent of the alterations...to see if it was possible for her to do it). The dress felt really nice on and I'm quite happy with my choice. When we went to the store today, I only had the intention of getting the dress but my mother strongly insisted that we buy the veil as well. Even though I thought the veil was ridculously expensive and could easily be a "do-it-yourself" project for a fraction of the price, I couldn't really say "no" to her, especially when she offered to pay for it. One less thing to worry about, I suppose. Plus, when mom's happy (and not on my case), then I am happy.

After putting the deposit down, we spent the afternoon in Chinatown looking at Chinese wedding dresses. I fear that my dress saga is not completely over. I thought it would be a relatively easy task to find a decent Chinese wedding dress for cheap. However, according to Colin's mom, most of the ones I picked out were not really Chinese wedding dresses. They were just Chinese dresses that happened to be red. And the ones that she told me were more wedding-lilke were ugly in my opinion. Sigh. I'm not going to worry about it right now.

Friday, December 7, 2007

My Own Veil?!?

Below is an excerpt from a conversation with my mother.

Mom: You have a veil, you know...
Me: Yeah, yeah...I guess I will get my own veil.
Mom: No. I mean you already have your own veil.
Me [looking puzzled]: No, I don't. What do you mean I already have my own veil?
[Mom motions me to come upstairs and shows me veil]
Mom: Look! Your own veil from your First Communion!
Me: Oh! That veil. I wore that?!?
Mom: Yeah.
Me: Let me try it on...













Me: Ummm...No! I don't think I'm going to wear this veil...
Mom and Me: Hahahahaha...

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Traditional vs. Modern

Planning this wedding with Colin has been an "enlightening" experience because on more than one occasion, he has revealed himself to be a very traditional guy. TOO traditional, in fact. For example, he initially wanted me to wear a veil with a blusher whereas I didn't even want a veil in the first place. He wanted to participate in the traditional Chinese wedding door games in the morning of the wedding day and then have the tea ceremony with my family immediately afterwards. I told him that it wasn't a practical idea given the size of my family. Now, we are having the same "battle" as we discuss wedding invitations. He keeps choosing the traditional-looking red and gold ones whereas I would like some modern, classy, and elegant...Oh dear! What did I get myself into?

Who's the Boss?

During our wedding planning discussion today, we were trying to decide on the invitation style.
We've narrowed down our selection to a few styles, and making our own cards is still an option in the back of our minds. One of our biggest problems on deciding is due to the fact that we live in different cities, so naturally, my expectation is that one of us would have to make executive decisions on different tasks.

The end of our converstation went something like this:
Colin: ... Well, I thought I was in charge of this task?
Denise: No...
Colin: ... So what am I in charge of?
Denise: Nothing.
<pause>
Colin and Denise: hahahaha

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

"Wedding Research"

Lately, I have been watching episodes of "Rich Bride, Poor Bride" on the website for the Slice Channel as part of my "wedding research". Based in Toronto, the show follows an engaged couple as they plan their wedding and at the end of the show, the actual wedding budget is revealed. It is quite hilarious as some brides (AND grooms) can be quite demanding.

Here are a few quotes that still linger in my mind:
- "Budget? We don't have no budget!"
- "I'm a princess. You always call me a princess. Why can't I have my princess cake?"
- "I don't care if the sun will be in the guests' faces...I don't care."

If you haven't seen/heard of the show, I encourage you to check it out. As an aside, Colin and I auditioned for the show at the bridal show in Toronto. We are still waiting for their phone call. :P

Sunday, November 18, 2007

A Possible End to the Dress Saga?

I was in Toronto for the Remembrance Day long weekend and decided to check out a few more wedding dress shops. On Sunday, I went to Bridal and Beyond with Colin's mom. It was quite busy when we got there. Appointments are preferred but we were able to browse through the dresses on the rack and subsequently get a changeroom. The sales assistant was nice enough. I explained what I was looking for and she selected several nice gowns for me to try on. However, she didn't seem too knowledgeable about the dresses. (e.g. she couldn't really show me how the bustle would look on the gown) plus, she was busy serving other brides. (Word of advice: Call ahead and make an appointment. You can get your own private changeroom and the undivided attention of a sales assistant). Because it was so busy, I thought we could sneak a photo of me in the dress while in the changeroom. Unfortunately, the changeroom wasn't big enough for Colin's mom to snap a photo of the whole dress. However, afterwards, we saw that other girls were taking photos in the changeroom and we found out that photography was allowed! So, we snapped photos of me in two dresses that I am considering.

The next day, I wanted to check out one last store, Belo Fashions. My mom and I went in Monday morning, shortly after it opened. This was probably the best time to go because no one else was in the store. The sales assistant was very helpful. I explained what I was looking for and she selected several gorgeous gowns for me to try on. She gave me some Swarovski jewellery and veils to try on in order to see the "full outfit". She even got me to try on a tiara, which is something I was initially opposed to. There were five gowns I really liked. Anyway, I didn't rush into a decision yet but I feel that the end of my dress saga is near... ;)

The Dress Saga Continues

I've been meaning to post for a while but work has been keeping me busy. Two weeks ago, I was in Toronto and I wanted to explore the wedding dress rental option. There are a whole slew of stores that offer this option in Richmond Hill, along West Beaver Creek. Not exactly TTC-accessible. So, I got Colin to drive (but not go into the stores). I was also accompanied by my cousin and bridesmaid, Florence, who offered her advice and opinion on wedding gowns.

We went to two stores only: Vivi Bridal and Taipei Love Forever Bridal Studio (We would have gone to more except trying on wedding gowns can be quite tiring!). We inquired about the types of wedding packages they offer and learned that they not only had a wide range of rental packages but also make-up/hair and photography packages. I told the sales assistants at both stores that I was strictly interested in the wedding dress rental only. It actually seems like a very cost-effective option; on average, you could rent 3 gowns (white dress, Chinese dress, and evening gown) for about $1000. Plus, they would do alterations and look after cleaning.

So, I tried on several gowns at both stores. Now, I have already been to other wedding dress shops. However, my previous dress-shopping experience did not prepare me for what happened at these stores. I was in the changeroom getting ready to step into a gown when a sales assistant entered my changeroom, where she could see me in my underwear (flab hanging out and all!). I wasn't exactly comfortable but I guess this was just the store's way of ensuring the dresses don't rip etc. All of the dresses that I tried on were not bad. It was interesting because usually wedding dress samples are too big for me. However, the majority of the dresses I tried on were the perfect length. In fact, some were too small for me!

When I first heard about the price, I thought I might go for the gown rental option. However, after this trip, I think I've decided against it for a couple of different reasons.

1) All of the wedding dresses were quite traditional-looking. Most of the dresses had a lot of beadery and detail. Not exactly my style.

2) The sales assistants did not seem to understand what my style was or my concerns. For example, I tried on a dress that was a bit too tight on me. It was hard to breathe and you could see my little tummy bulge. But the sales assistant kept insisting that it was my size and that I would actually want it to be tighter!!!

3) I am worried about whether the alterations would be good enough. Since my wedding is not until late in the summer, several other brides could be wearing the same rental dress that I pick. Plus, Florence experienced a terrible alteration job for her wedding dress. Alterations are important!

Well, it was an option worth exploring. Too bad it didn't work out. Thanks Florence for coming out with me!

Monday, November 5, 2007

Planning is Going Smoothly (loosely interpreted in chinese "可以用錢解決的問題不成問題")

Lately, planning for our wedding has been going pretty good; here is a list of things that we've completed:

- booked ceremony venue
- booked reception venue
- booked dj
- booked photographer
- completed the wedding party!
- 75% decided on a cake vendor

Our next few tasks are:
- decide on wedding card vendor (possibly ourselves)
- find decorators
- look into flowers

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Meet the Parents

Today was the day Colin and I introduced our parents to each other. We figured it was about time that they met. ;) We thought the best way to do so was to invite them for dim sum at the Grand Chinese Cuisine restaurant, the restaurant that will also be catering our reception dinner. Unlike the Ben Stiller movie, both sets of parents seem to hit it off. Conversation ended up being in both Cantonese and English. Colin and I focused on eating while our parents talked to each other. (Food was delicious, by the way. So, we can expect an excellent reception dinner too). After lunch, Colin's parents invited my parents over their house for a little bit. And the Wongs and the Tom-Kuns continued getting to know one another until late in the afternoon. All in all, I would say the "Parents' Lunch" was a success!

Saturday, October 13, 2007

Wedding Dress Shopping Continues

Today, I decided to do some wedding dress shopping at three bridal stores here in Ottawa. I was grateful to have my two best Ottawa girlfriends, Sandra and Erin, tag along. I won't go into any detail about the actual dresses that I tried on but I thought I would talk a little bit about the shopping experience itself.

Our first stop was a family-owned bridal store called, "Martino's Fashion and Bridal". It's a tiny little store in a tiny little plaza all the way down Bank Street. The store was small and crowded with lots of bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, and other formal gowns. A young lady was quite helpful and patient, allowing the three of us to pick several wedding dresses for me to try on. After having finished trying on about six gowns, she was kind enough to write down the style number, label, price, and even a brief description of the gowns that I was interested in.

Our second stop was a small place in Chinatown called, "Kim Lynn's Bridal and Flowers", which is run by this one Asian lady. This store was just as small as Martino's but had less selection of gowns. I tried on a few gowns, as well as some Chinese cheongsam. The lady was quite hands-off; she stayed behind the counter while I tried on the dresses. She was still nice though, offering me 20% off if I ordered a dress before December.

Our final stop was the "Baroness Bridal Boutique", where I had an appointment at 1pm. Because I made an appointment, a young lady was on hand to assist me. Like the first place we went to, she let us selected all sorts of gowns that I wanted to try on. This store carries higher end designer labels and I tried on lots of gorgeous gowns including one that was $6500!!! I even tried on "the perfect dress" that I fell in love with a few weeks back. All of the dresses I tried on were super-expensive. So really, we were just at this store to "play". Even if I was willing to pay a lot of money for a wedding dress, I don't think I would get it here. When I asked if they could write the style numbers and prices, they told me that they will just note the style numbers in their computer and if/when I return, they will pull up my file. I found this kind of snobbish. I'm sorry but a bride is entitled to do some comparison shopping, especially when it comes to her wedding dress. In this case, it doesn't matter because I found the style numbers for the dresses on the internet and I can inquire at other stores.

This second dress shopping experience made me realize that there are a lot of nice gowns out there and a lot of different styles that look nice on me. I am no longer obsessing over "my perfect dress". I know I can get a decent looking dress for under $1000...maybe even under $500. Price is definitely going to be a deciding factor. I'm probably going to go on one more shopping trip in Toronto. In particular, I am going to looking into renting a wedding dress. After that, I'll probably make a decision.

Monday, October 8, 2007

To Change or Not to Change?

The feminist in me always thought that whenever I got married, I would not even think of changing my name. In fact, I would convince my future husband to adopt my last name instead. However, ever since I got engaged, I have been asking myself whether I should change my last name or not. Colin has already said that he would not change his last name to Tom-Kun. (So, there goes that idea. :P). He also told me that the decision is mine to make. So, he's not pressuring me to adopt his last name. (He's such a sweetie.)

I'm finding that lots of recent newlywed brides that I know have adopted the last names of their husbands for various reasons. So, what gives and what should I do? Here is a short pro/con list for myself:

Pros
- I would have the same last name as our children
- People would actually be able to pronounce my "new" last name
- People would actually be able to spell my "new" last name

Cons
- Being a Tom-Kun has always been my identity
- I am the one and only Denise Tom-Kun in the whole wide world
- My last name is unique and a symbol of my Chinese-Trinidadian heritage

Here are the options I am considering:

1) Denise Tom-Kun (status quo)
2) Denise Wong (adopt his last name)
3) Denise Tom-Kun-Wong (hypenated last name)
4) Denise Tom-Wong (incorporates both of our last names and not too difficult to pronounce)
5) Denise Wong-Kun (pronounced "Wongkin" :P)

I'm still not sure what I am going to do yet. I would appreciate some input so, let me know what you think. :)

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Chaplin Lined Up

Another accomplishment in our wedding planning: we have secured the services of resident Chaplin at Oakview Terrace. Now, all I have to remember is to get the marriage certificate from City Hall within 90 days of our wedding. After we have the marriage certificate, we will need to work with the Chaplin to plan the ceremonies... soooo exciting!

Going on Dates are Still Important

After a semi-stressful weekend, and past few weeks, Denise and I decided we should go to see a movie for some R&R. It was a brilliant idea... Good Luck Chuck is the perfect romance/comedy movie for guys :) and for 96 minutes, I forgot about the trials of wedding planning.

Don't worry, we are still aggressively saving up for the big day. We had a 2-for-1 coupon again, and just like at the Bridal Show, I paid for admission with change from my change box :)

Monday, October 1, 2007

Canada's Bridal Show

Colin and I went to Canada's Bridal Show at the Toronto Convention Centre this past Saturday. We went after 5pm with our 2 for 1 coupon. It was pretty overwhelming. Lots of different vendors for wedding cakes, photographers, DJs, invitations, decorators, wedding dresses etc. There was a fashion show going on while we were there but we decided not to watch because the aisles were practically empty. We picked up tons of information. Not sure if we are going to use it all. Nor am I sure if we'll bother to go to another bridal show. Maybe to take advantage of tuxedo rental offers, which were half-decent. But only if I can convince Colin that he can't wear the one and only suit he owns with his high school band tie.

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Slashing the Guest List

Colin and I were reviewing both of our guest lists this morning. One of the things we wanted to determine was who to invite to the ceremony as our chosen ceremony location has a maximum capacity of 200 people. The dilemna is my family alone already accounted for 200. There are a couple of options that we can consider when sending out invitations: ask people to RSVP for both ceremony and reception, send out invitations to both events in multiple rounds, or invite only 200 people to the ceremony. We're still figuring out what to do.

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Save the Date!

Ok, folks. Mark your calendars: August 23, 2008.

Colin and I are still finalizing our guest lists. It's a tough decision, especially for me because my family is enormous (and LOUD...think "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" with thick Trinidadian accents). As such, my list of friends may be relatively short...

Now that the date and venues are more or less finalized, we can take our time to plan the other fun stuff. Stay tuned as more details start to unfold.

Monday, September 24, 2007

Validated

As of yesterday, we were 99.999% at our final decision on venues. We gave ourselves one final chance by honoring an appointment at The Doctor's House in Kleinberg. The site itself was quite nice, tucked away in a quaint corner with a small, but well kept garden. The chapel itself was quite nice, with ample sunlight penetrating into a candle lit, yet air conditioned environment.

For a brief moment, I entertained the possibility of displacing our ceremony venue before I came crashing back to reality. The grounds are booked hourly and it is feasible that we may be rushed off the grounds. There is also no room for the bride to prepare herself in; she would be expected to arrive in time to walk into the chapel. Imagine asking our large family to be 100% on schedule.

Our original selection has been validated. We'll be faxing deposit slips and confirmation forms to our chosen venues now. Once the venues have confirmed our reservations, Denise and I will officially announce our date.

Sunday, September 23, 2007

Round#2: DTK vs. CW

Yesterday, Denise and I had an action-packed day looking at venue locations. Our first stop of the day was at Kortright Centre, a potential ceremony location. Kortright is significant because it is one our first date locations. We had went for a hike and to visit the sugar shacks. While it would have been nostalgic to have our ceremony here, the sites were not very good. In fact, one was just behind some pine trees behind the parking lot (not very classy).

Our driving trip was quite eventful; Denise and I got into an argument because the Google Map directions led us onto the 407 (which I refuse to drive on) and we had to find an alternate route on-the-fly. Personality-wise, we are quite different: I like to do things on-the-go, and Denise needs to plan. There were no winners again... we had a very similar disagreement in Richmond as well :)
Can't wait till Denise starts driving me around in Ottawa!

Our next venue was the Metropolitan Hotel; completely uneventful. We have both been there for weddings before so we knew it was quality. We also knew it would be pricey.

As it turns out, our final reception venue appointment was at the Sheraton Hotel; we had later called and canceled an appointment at La Rosa Banquet Hall. Sheraton was nice, moderately priced, but lacked some charm. While the Great York Hall was really stunning, the thought of potentially having an adjacent wedding was less than appealing.

We had finally come to realize and accept that the first two venues that we visited would be our choices.

Now that we have one less decision to make, I am foolishly overcome with glee thinking that the stress will be reduced.

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Colin....

This was my fortune for the year: 今年「紅鸞星動」,拍拖感情穩定的肖龍人今年大有機會「拉埋天窗」

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Round #1: DTK vs. MOM

Today, Denise and I went to visit some additional venues for ceremony and reception locations. Here is a recap of the days events. I picked up Denise at the TTC station and we drove to The Gardens for an 11:30am appointment. I had anticipated that it would be further, but it turns out it is on the Mississauga/Brampton border, so we arrived much earlier than Ivan, the caterer. Denise and I had a chance to walk around their small garden and to discuss our first impressions; since it is at the location of the Mandarin headquarters, we had thought the food would be catered by them was a bit disappointed. Later Ivan informed us that this would not be the case. The entrance to the hall itself is quite grand and can be used for a ceremony location. We had a pleasant chat with Ivan and among our current choices, this one would be ranked as 'Just Okay'.

Our next appointment was at 1pm at a location (which will not be mentioned because of demand for it) that was a fair distance from my house; I had invited my parents to come with us and resorted to some 'good' driving to arrive on time. Denise was really pleased with the location after having a walk around and would liked to have booked the venue. This is were things got interesting. Going there, we knew that there was a high demand for the venue and that most dates had been booked already. There was one potential date that was available, and in fact was very convenient for out of town guests. However, based on my research for 結婚吉日(auspicious day for marriage), it was considered unlucky. Denise and my mother had a minor disagreement on this. I can understand both sides of this, but given that my parents are mostly non believers of Feng Shui, I would have to side with Denise on this. Before I start choosing sides and ruffling too many feathers, I will try to find an alternative that would be suitable to everyone.

The Perfect Dress?

I wasn't planning on looking for a wedding dress until we actually finalize our wedding date. But I heard about a bridal gown sale in Mississauga that was taking place yesterday only and decided at the last minute to come to Toronto to check this sale out. (As it turned out, nothing at the sale appealed to me.) I asked my mother to come with me and she suggested that we also check out some bridal dress shops on Spadina Avenue (in the Fashion District).

When I walked into the first store, I was a little bit overwhelmed. Lots of different dresses in all sizes were hung on the racks and it was hard to tell whether they were anything I would like. The consultant, who assisted me, explained that I should try dresses on so that I could see. So, I started pulling a few dresses that didn't look half-bad off the racks. Based on my early selections, the consultant got a sense of "my style' and offered a couple of suggestions instead. As it happened, the first dress she picked for me was exactly what I had in mind! Other wedding dress shoppers stopped what they were doing and were "wowed" by the beautiful dress that I was wearing. I tried on other dresses; a few of them were nice but nothing compares to my "perfect dress". Unfortunately, of course, this dress is a little outside of the maximum amount I had set for myself.

I know I need to be practical about this. But it's hard not to get swept up in the moment. Sigh.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Venue Frenzy

Our next task is determine a date for our wedding. We have some dates in mind, and will need to cross-reference them with a chinese almanac to satisfy my curiosity (pronounced: pâr'ənt, pār'-s). Anyway, the key factor in determining our date will be the availability of a reception venue that we might like. I will have to do a lot of the legwork in calling places up, booking appointments and potentially visiting potential venues on my own because Denise lives in Ottawa. Does anyone recommend any venues that they have been to as a guest or bride/groom? I'm all ears. Did you plan your date first then choose a venue? or decided on a venue then a date? Chicken or the Egg?

Where do we begin with wedding plans?

It's been over a week now and I think I've gotten over the initial shock of my engagement to Colin. So, I guess the next step is to start our wedding plans. But where do we begin? Fortunately, a number of our friends have gotten married recently. And already, they are sharing tidbits of advice about planning for the big day. It's been very helpful so far. (Keep the advice coming!!)

As luck would have it, the Ottawa Wedding Show took place this past weekend - another good starting point for ideas. When I checked in, I was given a sticker to wear that read "Bride to be". As Colin said, this was just an easy way for vendors to recognize who to target. My friend, Erin was kind enough to join me, which was great. She had a good eye for recognizing freebies and draws to enter for prizes. Of course, I had to give out contact information. I guess I can expect a number of telephone calls over the next few weeks. Most of the suppliers and vendors catered to the Ottawa and Montreal markets. So, I wasn't seriously considering any of them (We are planning for a Toronto wedding). The show was good because it got me to start thinking about things I might want to do for my wedding. Colin and I do plan on going to a bridal show in Toronto later this month.

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

The Story

About Us

Denise was born and raised in Toronto. She is the eldest of five children and proud to be a member of a large Chinese -Trinidadian family. When she graduated from high school, Denise moved to Kingston in order to complete an undergraduate degree in sociology at Queen's University. After four years of living in a small town, she missed the big city life and moved back to Toronto, where she pursued a master's degree in sociology at York University. As she was finishing her thesis, Denise obtained a job with the federal government and moved to Ottawa.

Colin was born in Toronto but raised in Mississauga. He is the second of four children. He went to the University of Toronto and completed a degree in computer engineering. As it turned out, one of his classmates was Erich, a cousin of Denise's on the Lee-Kwen side of the family. (But Erich did not introduce the two of them together.) As it also turned out, Colin worked with Reg, another one of Denise's cousins, after graduating from university. (But Reg also did not introduce the two of them together!) Colin works for a telecommunications software company in downtown Toronto and currently lives in Mississauga.

How We Met

Denise and Colin met on a double blind date in 2003. He was trying to fix his friend, Minora up with a co-worker. Minora brought Denise along to introduce her to Colin. The four of them had dinner. After that day, Colin and Denise kept in touch by email and agreed to meet again soon for drinks.
It was another month before they met again. They went on a couple of dates and soon after, they were dating. Living situations and careers made the journey interesting, but finally, we are here!

The Proposal

A short while before our trip to Alaska, Denise and I had strolled into Birks for some casual browsing. Little did she know that I had already began putting deposits on various loose diamonds and started to think about a custom setting. Anyway, I became fixed on this beautiful (read: butt ugly) ring for the high price of $975 (no zeroes are missing here, hehe). For a while, '975' became our inside joke of what I would buy for her one day.

Fast forward to August 29, 2007: Our northbound Alaskan cruise had come to an end in Whittier, and we drove to Denali National Park for some casual hiking the next day.When we arrived at the park and visited the Visitor Center to ask the Rangers for suggested hiking routes, we became tentative, as there are not marked trails at our intended destination within the park (Fish Creek). In the back of my mind, I became worried that I would not be able to find a scenic and private area to propose at and would have to stick to marked trails adjacent to the Visitor Center.


Well, the day was upon us now, and we had a light but healthy breakfast of bananas, VitaSoy and were off to the Wilderness Access Center to wait for our bus that would take us to the interior. Up to this point we were still discussing about possible alternative destinations to go hiking at. I was nervous. As luck would have it, we were fortunate to have a very passionate bus driver who was knowledgeable about the park, providing us with excellent commentary about the wildlife and hiking ideas. The next few hours on the bus was filled with pleasant distractions of moose, caribou and bear sightings and some infrequent rest stops.


We were close to our destination, Fish Creek, and would be making our final 15minute rest stop at Toklat. Once again, this news made me slightly nervous again, as we would be pulling into an area with little privacy. Up to this point, the terrain did not appeal to me as a proposal location. I guess in the back of my mind, I had always imagined to propose with Mt. McKinley (aka. Denali) as a backdrop; as I found out visibility of its summit was hard to come by, as it is the highest peak in North America and introduced a highly unpredictable weather system of its own. (Aside: our weather experience spanned all the seasons and included heavy thundershowers and hail!).

Our arrival at Fish Creek came with little fanfare; while three quarters of Mt. McKinley was visible, the summit was not visible. Fish Creek was the turnaround point for our bus, and while this area was scenic, Denise and I were not prepared for hiking too deep into the park (no compass).


Denise and I had decided that it was best for us to return to Toklat and begin our hike there. On our return to Toklat, I had time to ask Wendy, our bus driver for scenic hiking locations that were not too difficult and she suggested the braided river beds; the river beds follow closely to the road and would allow us to hitch hike back to the park entrance after our hike. So off we went at approximately 1pm. The next hour or so was almost a complete waste of time, as we were still within visual range of the Toklat rest stop. We had a very tough time finding stepping stones to cross the meandering rivers/streams and finally came upon one that we could not cross. I was starting to get disappointed... would this rocky river bed be the dream location? Certainly didn't seem like it. Again, I was given another chance as Denise had spotted some hikers heading up a mountain directly behind the rest stop. This had to be it.

After taking sometime to hike back to Toklat rest stop, we embarked on our hike up the mountain and I held onto the hope that this would be a suitable location. On our way up, we came across some individual hikers who were on their way down. I had struck up a casual discussion with some of them as to how the view was up there. To my delight, there were dall sheep around the next bend! Invigorated, Denise and I made our way up as quickly and cautiously as we could. At this point, I started scoping locations for proposing with the help of my unknowing assistant. The higher and closer up to the sheep we got I noticed the view was getting worse, so I had a little more time to drum up some courage and wait for the right moment on our descent. Right up to the very end, I kept my little surprise from Denise as I tricked her to pose for another picture using a tripod (so my hands were free, wink, wink). Denise was incredibly surprised. Needless to say, the answer was a "Yes!".

All the way down the mountain I had a glowing sense of accomplishment and there were a few instances where Denise was so shocked about some of the facts that I revealed related to my planning for this moment that she even tripped on the rocky terrain! I really caught her off guard. Good Job, Colin!