Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Traditional vs. Modern

Planning this wedding with Colin has been an "enlightening" experience because on more than one occasion, he has revealed himself to be a very traditional guy. TOO traditional, in fact. For example, he initially wanted me to wear a veil with a blusher whereas I didn't even want a veil in the first place. He wanted to participate in the traditional Chinese wedding door games in the morning of the wedding day and then have the tea ceremony with my family immediately afterwards. I told him that it wasn't a practical idea given the size of my family. Now, we are having the same "battle" as we discuss wedding invitations. He keeps choosing the traditional-looking red and gold ones whereas I would like some modern, classy, and elegant...Oh dear! What did I get myself into?

Who's the Boss?

During our wedding planning discussion today, we were trying to decide on the invitation style.
We've narrowed down our selection to a few styles, and making our own cards is still an option in the back of our minds. One of our biggest problems on deciding is due to the fact that we live in different cities, so naturally, my expectation is that one of us would have to make executive decisions on different tasks.

The end of our converstation went something like this:
Colin: ... Well, I thought I was in charge of this task?
Denise: No...
Colin: ... So what am I in charge of?
Denise: Nothing.
<pause>
Colin and Denise: hahahaha

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

"Wedding Research"

Lately, I have been watching episodes of "Rich Bride, Poor Bride" on the website for the Slice Channel as part of my "wedding research". Based in Toronto, the show follows an engaged couple as they plan their wedding and at the end of the show, the actual wedding budget is revealed. It is quite hilarious as some brides (AND grooms) can be quite demanding.

Here are a few quotes that still linger in my mind:
- "Budget? We don't have no budget!"
- "I'm a princess. You always call me a princess. Why can't I have my princess cake?"
- "I don't care if the sun will be in the guests' faces...I don't care."

If you haven't seen/heard of the show, I encourage you to check it out. As an aside, Colin and I auditioned for the show at the bridal show in Toronto. We are still waiting for their phone call. :P

Sunday, November 18, 2007

A Possible End to the Dress Saga?

I was in Toronto for the Remembrance Day long weekend and decided to check out a few more wedding dress shops. On Sunday, I went to Bridal and Beyond with Colin's mom. It was quite busy when we got there. Appointments are preferred but we were able to browse through the dresses on the rack and subsequently get a changeroom. The sales assistant was nice enough. I explained what I was looking for and she selected several nice gowns for me to try on. However, she didn't seem too knowledgeable about the dresses. (e.g. she couldn't really show me how the bustle would look on the gown) plus, she was busy serving other brides. (Word of advice: Call ahead and make an appointment. You can get your own private changeroom and the undivided attention of a sales assistant). Because it was so busy, I thought we could sneak a photo of me in the dress while in the changeroom. Unfortunately, the changeroom wasn't big enough for Colin's mom to snap a photo of the whole dress. However, afterwards, we saw that other girls were taking photos in the changeroom and we found out that photography was allowed! So, we snapped photos of me in two dresses that I am considering.

The next day, I wanted to check out one last store, Belo Fashions. My mom and I went in Monday morning, shortly after it opened. This was probably the best time to go because no one else was in the store. The sales assistant was very helpful. I explained what I was looking for and she selected several gorgeous gowns for me to try on. She gave me some Swarovski jewellery and veils to try on in order to see the "full outfit". She even got me to try on a tiara, which is something I was initially opposed to. There were five gowns I really liked. Anyway, I didn't rush into a decision yet but I feel that the end of my dress saga is near... ;)

The Dress Saga Continues

I've been meaning to post for a while but work has been keeping me busy. Two weeks ago, I was in Toronto and I wanted to explore the wedding dress rental option. There are a whole slew of stores that offer this option in Richmond Hill, along West Beaver Creek. Not exactly TTC-accessible. So, I got Colin to drive (but not go into the stores). I was also accompanied by my cousin and bridesmaid, Florence, who offered her advice and opinion on wedding gowns.

We went to two stores only: Vivi Bridal and Taipei Love Forever Bridal Studio (We would have gone to more except trying on wedding gowns can be quite tiring!). We inquired about the types of wedding packages they offer and learned that they not only had a wide range of rental packages but also make-up/hair and photography packages. I told the sales assistants at both stores that I was strictly interested in the wedding dress rental only. It actually seems like a very cost-effective option; on average, you could rent 3 gowns (white dress, Chinese dress, and evening gown) for about $1000. Plus, they would do alterations and look after cleaning.

So, I tried on several gowns at both stores. Now, I have already been to other wedding dress shops. However, my previous dress-shopping experience did not prepare me for what happened at these stores. I was in the changeroom getting ready to step into a gown when a sales assistant entered my changeroom, where she could see me in my underwear (flab hanging out and all!). I wasn't exactly comfortable but I guess this was just the store's way of ensuring the dresses don't rip etc. All of the dresses that I tried on were not bad. It was interesting because usually wedding dress samples are too big for me. However, the majority of the dresses I tried on were the perfect length. In fact, some were too small for me!

When I first heard about the price, I thought I might go for the gown rental option. However, after this trip, I think I've decided against it for a couple of different reasons.

1) All of the wedding dresses were quite traditional-looking. Most of the dresses had a lot of beadery and detail. Not exactly my style.

2) The sales assistants did not seem to understand what my style was or my concerns. For example, I tried on a dress that was a bit too tight on me. It was hard to breathe and you could see my little tummy bulge. But the sales assistant kept insisting that it was my size and that I would actually want it to be tighter!!!

3) I am worried about whether the alterations would be good enough. Since my wedding is not until late in the summer, several other brides could be wearing the same rental dress that I pick. Plus, Florence experienced a terrible alteration job for her wedding dress. Alterations are important!

Well, it was an option worth exploring. Too bad it didn't work out. Thanks Florence for coming out with me!

Monday, November 5, 2007

Planning is Going Smoothly (loosely interpreted in chinese "可以用錢解決的問題不成問題")

Lately, planning for our wedding has been going pretty good; here is a list of things that we've completed:

- booked ceremony venue
- booked reception venue
- booked dj
- booked photographer
- completed the wedding party!
- 75% decided on a cake vendor

Our next few tasks are:
- decide on wedding card vendor (possibly ourselves)
- find decorators
- look into flowers